The Aries Man Personality Traits
He said, I go my ways And when I find a mountain-nil I set it in a blaze … So either way I’ll get into the garden, and I don’t care what happens. That creature over there making a phone call-is it an electrically charged dynamo?
Is it a flaming torch? is it a bird, an explosion-or is it Superman? Well, practically. It’s an Aries man, which is pretty close. Let’s hope you know what you’re looking for. Should it be excitement, an Aries man will provide it by the bushel, with seldom a dull moment to blur the sparkle. But if you’re looking for the security and contentment of a soothing love, you’re in the wrong telephone booth.
Aries can overwhelm you with passionate ardor one mintue, and be as icy as a polar bear the next. Insult him or lose his interest-either or both-and that warm, impulsive Mars nature will freeze instantly. To ignite it again may mean starting all over from Act One, Scene One.
Aries men are fairly bursting with ideas and creative energy. Keeping up with him may be tiring, but keep up you’d better. At least mentally. Aries has a way of leaving the snails behind and not glancing back. He’ll probably look and act younger than springtime, which is all very delightful, but his youthful aura may carry over into his mental and emotional attitudes until he’s matured, which won’t be early in life. The Aries man is impatient with slow pokes, bold and confident, always ahead of others, and sometimes ahead of himself as well. He can be the soul of generosity, giving his time, money, sympathy and possessions by the carload cheerfully to strangers. But he can also be exasperatingly intolerant, thoughtless, selfish and demanding, when his desires are delayed, or he’s forced to be around negative people.
When it comes to love, his heedless attitude is absolutely amazing. He’ll plunge into an affair, positive that this is the only true love ever known by any two people ever born, with the possible exception of Romeo and Juliet. When it breaks in half, hell pick up the pieces, and try every angle he can think of to salvage the dead romance. If it’s beyond repair, hell start all over again with a new Juliet, and it will be like the very first time. No matter how many romantic mistakes he makes, the ram is sure his true love or soul mate is just around the next dream. Unless you’re a Scorpio Woman, the Aries man is as passionate as any woman could ask. There’s little left to desire. He’s so idealistic and susceptible to sentiment, he’ll squeeze all the tingles, sighs, ectasies and poetry it’s possible to squeeze out of a relationship. Aries isn’t capable of going halfway. He gives all of himself to the burning interest of the moment.
You may be involved with one of the quieter sheep. Don’t let him fool you. He’s still ruled by Mars. He doesn’t talk much right away? He’s not openly exuberant and pushy? Yes, I know one, too. But take my word for it, if you could see inside that hard head, you would discover that his brain is spinning at approximately two hundred revolutions per second. Any time you meet this kind, one who doesn’t at first appear to have the typical Mars drive, check the present record of the business he’s conducting. You’ll soon be convinced you’re dealing with an Aries. Then ask his ex-girl friends. They’ll probably answer with a giggle. Him? Bashful? Timid? You must mean someone else. After a while, you should begin to get the picture. That quiet demeanor is a mask for a fiery heart and a tough business drive. Naturally, it’s easier when you’re in love with a plain, simple ram, who makes it obvious just how enthusiastic he is about everything from potato chips to moonlight and motor trips.
No other Sun sign can be so scrupulously faithful as Aries when he’s really in love for keeps. His honesty will usually keep him from fooling you, and his idealism will keep him from wanting to. Promiscuity or even light flirtations are not an Arien habit, no matter what the books tell you. Not when he’s deeply involved with all his heart. He’s looking for a storybook romance, and storybook romances never include a casual attitude toward love and sex. Those other girls were B.Y.C.A. (before you came along). In fact, I know one Aries who frequently precedes discussions of yesterday with his current flame with, That wasB.U. (before us).
Of course, you must keep alert to future possibilities, because as sincere as he is in his present devotion and promises of complete loyalty (which are undoubtedly absolutely true), his need for romance is so strong that he’s capable of looking elsewhere if you don’t keep his illusions alive constantly. The minute you let your mutual love lose its storybook flavor, he may wander off .the steady path. In case you’re not sure, storybook love, to him, does not include going to dreamland at night with a Woman who has Vicks salve on her chest to clear up her cough. It also does not include watching your intimate personal toilette, such as polishing your nails, whitening your teeth, brightening your hair with blondes have more fun bleach, peeling your sunburn, filing your nails or fighting with your mother for hours on the phone. Somehow, in his mind, this is not the way storybook princesses behave. And goodness knows, Juliet would never have sat with her feet up, chewing taffy and watching TV. Wear your perfume when he’s around, and giggle with your girl friends when he’s not. He finds it difficult to visualize himself as Prince Charming when he kisses you awake and you either snore, or shout unpleasantly, For gosh sakes, let me sleep, will you? Now, really, is that the way Sleeping Beauty would have acted when she woke up? Be prepared to greet him dewy-eyed and breathless each morning, fresh from your dreams, thrilled to find his handsome face so near. And let him know it.
Aries mans whose sweethearts neglect romance are heartbroken at first. Then they become angry. Then they go looking for a princess who doesn’t snore and things like that. This isn’t dishonest as far as he’s concerned. He didn’t break a promise. You did. You made him think you were a lovely nightingale, singing in the moonlight, like it says in his favorite song. Now he finds out you’re a chattering squirrel or a nagging blue jay and the jolt rouses him from his heavenly world of angelic choirs and bells ringing every time he touches your hand. How can bells ring when your hands are always full of dirty ashtrays, and how can he hear choirs when you’re screaming at him that he stayed out until after midnight for two nights in a row? (Which he did, of course, but who are you to think you can dictate his every move? Marriage is not a prison, and you are not his warden-that’s his attitude.)
If you leam how to open your eyes and look at him mistily and all the rest of it, he’ll stay with you happily, and ignore every Woman on earth for you. The ram is highly unlikely to commit himself physically to more than one woman at a time (unless there’s a Gemini ascendant or some Venus affliction in his natal chart). It just wouldn’t fit his image of one true and lasting love. The decision to break off the old will always be made before becoming too deeply involved with the new. You’ll have plenty of warning. An Aries man can rarely pretend a passion he doesn’t feel. This alone prevents any undue amount of deception. Besides, now you know how to keep him inside the pages of that storybook.
Just don’t be dull, negative or overly timid. To hold him, you’ll have to be a combination of Grace Kelly, Ursula Andress, Marie Dressier, Madame Curie and Queen Victoria, with a little bit of Clare Boothe Luce thrown in. No one princess will ever satisfy his image of the ideal. It’s quite a trick to convince him you’re superior to all other Womans, but it will keep him spotlessly faithful, if you can swing it. It’s really worth a try, because, if the Aries plunge into romance is headlong, his race out of it is equally reckless. He’s both an idealist and an egotist, which means he hates to admit he’s wrong, or that the love he chose could die. Still, always remember that he’s capable of finding situations unbearable that others would consider par for the course. After a separation, if you catch him in the right mood, you can fire his romance all over again, if you act as if there had never been any previous intimacy. You’ll have to play hard to get, because he loves a challenge. To make it easier to forgive him, if trouble ever arises, remember that any straying was due to a sudden impulse after his nightingale stopped singing in the moonlight, not to a deliberate seeking of casual variety. Adultery is actually distasteful to his honest nature. Don’t fret about the future. You have the magic key to his heart. Lock it.
If you have any ideas about playing games with him by flirting-drop them. Your first indiscretion will probably be your last. You can lose him with just a whisper or an intimate look at another man, let alone any actual infidelity.
He insists on being first in everything, and you can bet your old pressed gardenia this includes being first in your heart. Aries is possessive and jealous in the extreme. Only a Leo man can get wilder at the thought of a transgression on the part of his beloved. To make it worse, the ram will never give you the blind faith he expects you to give him in such matters. You’ll simply have to understand that his animated conversations with other women are innocent, because he’ll demand all the freedom of social contact he denies to you, and then some. Your Mars lover will glue you to a pedestal, and expect you to stay there. Don’t move a single toe. Don’t even look as if you want to.
The Aries man is a natural rebel. He loves to defy authority and he thinks he was born smarter than anyone else. Perhaps he was, but most people don’t relish being told so. Thanks to his rash way of pushing his superiority, he’s liable to fall flat on his face more than once. Because of his need to lead and refusal to follow, those in more powerful positions will teach him frequent lessons in humility. At these times, you’re way ahead, because he’ll run to you for comfort and assurance when his ego is bruised. Then you’ll leam that, beneath his self-confident, aggressive front, lies an inferiority complex he’d rather die than admit having. The woman who handles his shattered confidence with gentle and total devotion has the best chance of keeping his heart permanently. Never make the mistake of agreeing with his momentary enemy, or trying to be fair and seeing the other side of the controversy. You must love what he loves and hate what he hates. He demands the same fierce and unquestioning loyalty that he gives, in both love and friendship. It’s his code. Unless you honor it, find another man.
There are no subtle tricks in the Aries nature. It’s not at all hard to recognize when a Mars man is finished with a relationship. The ice and boredom in his voice and manner will be unmistakable, and will usually be accompanied by a frank statement that makes it crystal clear. On the other hand, an explosive flame of scorching anger is less serious, signifying that his displeasure is probably just a passing mood, and the romance can be saved. You have more reason to fear his ice than his fire.
Aries mans don’t like games. Hell be direct in all his approaches. And that means in romance, as well as in business. He won’t waste a second, once the love has been recognized, but be sure to let him be the one to recognize it. Don’t chase him, phone him frequently, get starry-eyed or declare your feelings until you’re absolutely sure the passion is mutual. The quickest way to lose him is to make the first advance. He must be the leader here, as elsewhere. If you don’t allow him to be, he can lose interest so fast it can astonish you and crush you at the same time. Once you’re each firmly committed, however, don’t be too cool and casual, or he’ll seek attention somewhere else. Love with an Aries man is like walking a tightrope between warm interest and aloof detachment. You practically have to be a trapeze artist. Don’t run after him. Don’t run away from him, either. Stick a penny in your shoe, carry a fourleaf clover and wish on a star. That will get you as far as any normal, methodical strategy. Maybe farther. You have to keep him guessing, even after you’re his. At the same time, he needs the assurance that your love is always there. Learn to live with it-or learn to live without an Aries.
On the plus side, although your Aries lover will insist on being first in the relationship, he’ll also be the first to say he’s sorry after a quarrel, and the first to be there when you need him. He’ll be right by your side when you’re ill or unhappy. He’ll spend money on you freely and willingly (if he’s a typical son of Mars). He’ll compliment your appearance, appreciate your talents and be a stimulating mental companion. Although he can be bossy and lose his temper over a trifle, he’ll seldom let the sun go down on his anger before making up. You may be the most important thing in his life, but he’ll expect you to know that, and wait for affection and attention when he’s all excited by some new idea which is consuming his interest. He wants to be your whole world, but unlike other men, he’ll let you share his world, if you’re his equal.
The Aries man will expect his lady fair to be ultra-feminine and a tomboy at the same time. He wants you to be completely independent, yet willing to stay a few paces behind him. He’ll expect you to praise him and be devoted to him, but never play the role of humble slavey. Are you still with me? Good. Brave girl. There’s more to come. He’s capable of saying bitterly cruel and sarcastic things to you when his ego has been wounded, things he won’t mean at all, but which may break your heart if you don’t understand him. Then he’ll expect you to forgive and forget as readily as he does. You’ll have to like all his friends, while he reserves the right to be bored by yours. Well, you wanted a man, didn’t you? You’ve sure got one in your Aries mate. If you’re a real woman, your love affair can be the envy of everyone in town, just like Romeo and Juliet (without the tragedy, of course).
Once you’ve married him, the Aries man will dominate the home or leave it. He won’t stand for being nagged in public or private, especially about bow he spends his lettuce. He earned it, didn’t he? It’s his money, isn’t it? (Sometimes that possessive pronoun can stretch to include the money you earn, too.) He may not balance the budget too well-and I’m being kind to put it so tactfully-but don’t take it over yourself, even if you made straight A’s in math. Never question his financial affairs. It’s essential that he control the purse-strings all the way. He’ll be generous with his cash, if he’s a typical Arien, and give you whatever you need. You can have that cobra skin handbag after he’s bought that alligator brief case, if there’s anything left over. (He may be a little selfish, but he’s never stingy.)
Though the ram may change jobs frequently until he becomes his own boss, he won’t let you starve. He’ll find a way to keep the dollars flowing in, even though they may flow out again just as fast. Better save a few quarters in the blue china pig and surprise him with it when he needs it most, because he’s not likely to salt away much of his earnings himself (unless he has a hidden asset, like the Moon in Capricorn or Cancer, or an ascendant which dictates economy).
Each new baby will find him behaving like the devoted, proud papa of your dreams. Later, he may be a little bossy with the children, and try to dictate their careers. He’ll be a warm and wonderful fun daddy, but he might have to be reminded that the youngsters need independence as much as he does. Fatherhood is definitely a role he’ll enjoy. Baseball, talks about the birds and bees, football, father-daughter dinners, the whole works. Just don’t let him think little Herman or Henrietta is more important to you than he is, however, or his enjoyment of the role may cool considerably.
Go ahead and continue your career after marriage if you like. He probably won’t resent it, as long as you don’t outshine him. It’s easier for him to forgive instant suppers or quick-frozen kumquats than to forgive your lack of faith in his ideas. That’s important to remember.
Encourage his independence, but try to curb his impulsiveness-tactfully. He must lead or life is worth little to him. His great and bubbly enthusiasm can die a sad death if you douse it with wet blankets or short circuit his positive energy with negative thinking. The minute he loses authority on the job or in the home, his refreshing optimism will turn to moody discontent and finally, complete disinterest. It’s not his nature to submit. He’s a man’s man. Never destroy his masculinity, but never lose your own individuality. Don’t try to push him around, and don’t let him push you around. An Aries husband won’t put up with a wife who runs around to club meetings every night. Neither will he tolerate a wife who sits home and crochets bedspreads and tablecloths all day. You’ll have to aim somewhere in the middle. If you’re successful, just think- you’ll be the only white-haired Juliet in your crowd some-day, with a husband who’s still sentimental on your golden wedding anniversary. That’s quite a challenge if you’re a romantic, and of course you are, or you wouldn’t be in-; volved with an Aries man in the first place.