Our greatest challenges and our deepest desires tend not to present themselves in isolation. As such, we can activate crystals to help us in an even more holistic way when we apply them to one or more emotions or aspirations that often affect us in combination. While some of the remedies in this chapter call for multiple crystals, a greater number require only a couple of crystals to counteract dark impulses and move you toward light and hope.
Addiction & Self-Control
Addiction is an emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical issue. While the drive and urge for your substance of choice is biological, the roots of addiction are often buried deep within your psyche, the result of emotional or spiritual wounds. Sobriety, then, requires a combination of physical, spiritual, and emotional support and self-control. These remedies will provide support for all aspects of your recovery.
All the choices I make support my mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health.
MEDITATION
Sit comfortably with your eyes closed, breathing normally. While repeating the mantra, visualize yourself easily and comfortably exercising self-control over any temptations that arise, and picture making healthy choices that support your well-being. Continue your meditation for about 10 minutes. Throughout the day, if you are faced with temptations or urges, close your eyes and repeat the mantra a few times.
REMEDY #1: MULTI-STONE FULL CHAKRA SUPPORT
Addiction often affects all of your chakras, so it is important to support yourself fully. Provide yourself with emotional and physical support while strengthening your resolve and self-control by lying on your back for 10 minutes with the following stones on each chakra:
• Obsidian on your root chakra
• Carnelian on your sacral chakra
• Citrine on your solar plexus chakra
• Peridot on your heart chakra
• Iolite on your throat chakra
• Amethyst on your third eye chakra
• Clear quartz on your crown chakra
REMEDY #2: AMETHYST & CARNELIAN
These two stones support sobriety—amethyst is a direct sobriety stone and carnelian is a stone of motivation and self-control. Carry these two stones in your pocket and hold them in your receiving (nondominant) hand for strength as needed throughout the day.
Anger & Forgiveness
Anger toward another is often justified, but when you hold on to it for an extended time, it hurts you more than it hurts the object of your ire. Forgiveness is an important step in releasing yourself and moving forward so you don’t get stuck in negativity. Anger and forgiveness are emotions of the solar plexus chakra, so working to unblock that chakra can help you learn to release your anger and forgive.
I release all anger toward [person’s name] and release [him/her] into a positive new future.
MEDITATION
Lie on your back with a yellow tigers eye on your solar plexus chakra, with both hands gently placed over the stone. Focus your attention on your solar plexus. As you focus on your chakra, repeat the mantra for at least 10 minutes or until you feel release. You can use any of the solar plexus stones for this meditation.
REMEDY #1: PREHNITE & CLEAR QUARTZ
Sitting comfortably, hold a piece of clear quartz in one hand and a piece of prehnite in the other hand. Repeat the mantra for 10 minutes or until you feel peace.
REMEDY #2: SMOKY QUARTZ & ROSE QUARTZ GRID
Smoky quartz helps transform powerful negative emotions, while rose quartz encourages forgiveness and unconditional love for self and others. To make the grid, place rose quartz of any shape in the center. Then, surround it with a square of four smoky quartz pieces. Using your finger, trace the shape of the grid, visualizing the object of your anger in your mind and surrounding them in white light. This powerful grid can help ease feelings of anger, turning them into forgiveness and love.
Sometimes the person with whom you are angry is yourself. For self-forgiveness, picture yourself as the object of your anger, and focus on releasing your anger toward yourself.
Denial & Acceptance
Denial can prevent you from acknowledging all sorts of issues in your life—from addictions to relationship problems to illnesses. Denial is a defense mechanism people sometimes use to avoid overwhelming emotions, but it also keeps you from moving forward in your life in meaningful ways. Acceptance helps release denial, allowing you to solve problems creatively to find useful solutions to resolve issues in your life.
I acknowledge the truth, accept it for what it is, and love myself unconditionally.
MEDITATION
One of the biggest problems with denial is that, on a conscious level, you probably don’t realize you’re in denial. However, on a subconscious level, you probably know you are in denial about something. So before you can reach acceptance, you must acknowledge that which you are denying. This meditation helps you reveal your denial, acknowledge it, and reach acceptance. Lie comfortably on your back with your eyes closed, breathing normally. Ask yourself, “What am I denying?” Then, focus on your third eye and watch what arises. When you have a clear picture of what you are denying, speak the mantra, surrounding yourself with healing white light.
REMEDY #1: PURPLE & GREEN FLUORITE CHAKRA WORK
To facilitate the meditation, use two pieces of fluorite—one purple and one green. Place the purple fluorite on your third eye chakra to facilitate insight and the green fluorite on your heart chakra to facilitate unconditional love and acceptance. Proceed with the meditation. (You can replace the purple and green fluorite with two pieces of rainbow fluorite that have just the purple and green in them, if you don’t specifically have one piece of purple and one green.)
REMEDY #2: RAINBOW FLUORITE & CLEAR QUARTZ CHAKRA WORK
For this meditation, use a single piece of rainbow fluorite that has blue, green, and purple in it. Lie on your back with the rainbow fluorite on your throat chakra and the clear quartz on your crown chakra. The blue in the fluorite will help stimulate speaking your truth, which is essential for releasing denial and finding acceptance. The clear quartz will amplify spiritual energy, providing you with strength and support from the Divine. Visualize light coming into your crown chakra through the quartz and into your throat chakra from the fluorite. Run the energy up into your third eye chakra and down into your heart chakra. Repeat the mantra as you do this for 5 to 10 minutes.
Despair & Hope
Despair arises when all hope seems lost. Finding even the smallest sliver of hope during times of despair can ignite healing, keeping you from becoming paralyzed by your despair and enabling you to make the choice to move forward with your life. When you feel despair, you can take steps to overcome the bleakness and reignite your hope.
Nothing is permanent. All things change. I have hope for a positive future.
MEDITATION
Make a list of all of the things you’d like your life to be, and turn each into a positive affirmation. Every day, choose three positive affirmations and repeat each one three times, starting and ending your session with the mantra.
REMEDY #1: ALEXANDRITE & TOURMALINE
As you state your affirmations, hold a piece of black tourmaline in your giving (dominant) hand and a piece of alexandrite in your receiving (nondominant) hand. The tourmaline will absorb your despair, while the alexandrite will impart hope. Be sure to cleanse and charge these crystals after every session, because despair is a very heavy energy that will quickly fill your crystal.
REMEDY #2: CITRINE & SMOKY QUARTZ GRID
Make a simple line grid with citrine and smoky quartz. Place a piece of smoky quartz of any shape in the center, with two citrine points on either side of it, pointing toward you. Place the grid in a place where you spend a lot of time, or next to your bed. The smoky quartz will absorb and transform the negative energy of despair into positive energy, while the citrine will impart hope, directed through the points of the crystals. Cleanse and charge your crystals daily.
Fear & Courage
Everyone feels fear from time to time; it’s a natural human response. Courage in the face of fear means acting constructively, no matter how afraid you are. Acts of courage don’t need to be big or bold to matter. Sometimes, courage comes from having the strength to be who you are in the face of fear of rejection. Whether your acts of courage are large or small, overcoming fear to make positive change is a tremendous act of bravery.
I have the strength to face all circumstances; I have the courage to act and move forward.
MEDITATION
Fear is a root chakra issue, while courage is a solar plexus chakra issue. To overcome fear with courage, lie on your back with your eyes closed, breathing normally. Allow yourself to feel your fear, noting any sensations in your root chakra. Now, move your attention to your solar plexus chakra. Visualize the golden light of that chakra glowing strongly. Move your fear from the root chakra up into the solar plexus chakra, allowing the golden light to overtake it. Continue meditating for at least 10 minutes.
REMEDY #1: GARNET & AQUAMARINE
Garnet helps alleviate fear, while aquamarine enables you to act courageously. Hold the garnet in your giving (dominant) hand and the aquamarine in your receiving (nondominant) hand. Sit quietly with your eyes closed, feeling your fear flow into the garnet and courage flow into you from the aquamarine. Be sure to cleanse and charge both stones regularly if you are in a situation that requires a lot of courage.
REMEDY #2: TIGERS EYE & BLOODSTONE CHAKRA WORK
Place a piece of yellow tigers eye on your solar plexus chakra and a piece of bloodstone on your root chakra as you do the meditation.
For courage in certain aspects of your life, use a stone for that chakra as well. For example, if you are afraid of speaking your truth and need courage to do so, use the tigers eye and bloodstone, but add a throat chakra stone such as lapis lazuli. For overcoming fear and having courage in love, add a heart chakra stone such as rose quartz.
Goals & Motivation
Setting goals can help you achieve the things you desire in life, but sometimes motivation slips. Engaging in the thoughts, words, and deeds necessary to meet your short-term and long-term goals requires motivation to keep moving forward. However, even when we’re steadily progressing toward meeting our goals, life often gets in the way and suddenly we have lost our drive to move forward. Working with these two areas in combination can help you keep your eyes on the prize and continue to take positive steps in that direction.
I maintain motivation to meet my goals.
MEDITATION
Write down your goals as affirmations, wording them as if you have already achieved those goals. For example, if your goal is to run a marathon, you might affirm, “I am grateful I have completed my marathon successfully and feel happy and healthy.” Each morning upon waking, repeat each of your affirmations three times. Then, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing what you need to do each day to take steps to achieve your goal.
REMEDY #1: MULTI-STONE GRID
This square grid requires five stones, all that help focus on different aspects of goals and motivation. Start with a clear quartz point or cluster in the center for amplification. Around the quartz point, arrange a carnelian for motivation, yellow tigers eye for self-confidence, obsidian for self-control, and sodalite for integrity. Form a square around the center clear quartz, and place the grid on your bedside table. Cleanse and recharge the stones once or twice a week.
REMEDY #2: AMETHYST & CARNELIAN
Before going to sleep, lie on your back with a piece of amethyst on your third eye chakra. Ask, “What are my goals?” Focus on your third eye, watching what arises. Now, write the goals on a piece of paper and wrap the paper around a carnelian crystal. Place the wrapped carnelian under your pillow. The amethyst helps clarify your thinking, while the carnelian provides energy and motivation to take steps to achieve your goals upon waking.
Grief & Comfort
When we grieve, we long for comfort. However, during intense grieving, comfort may be difficult to find, no matter how much others try to offer solace. Finding a source of comfort within yourself may be your most effective way of assisting your grief. In this case, comfort comes from your higher self, as well as from a source such as your spirit guides, lost loved ones, or any deity in which you believe.
I receive comfort from my higher self to ease my grief.
MEDITATION
Sit quietly with your eyes closed, breathing deeply. Say to yourself, “I thank my higher power for bringing me comfort in my time of grief.” Allow yourself to feel warmth and comfort entering your body from the universe, surrounding you in a loving white light. Speak the mantra as you sit, allowing yourself to be embraced by the light for as long as you need.
REMEDY #1: SMOKY QUARTZ & APACHE TEARS
Hold a piece of smoky quartz in your giving (dominant) hand and a piece of Apache tears in your receiving (nondominant) hand. The smoky quartz will receive, absorb, and transform your grief, while the Apache tears will impart comforting energy. You can do this during the meditation, or anytime throughout the day when your grief threatens to overwhelm you. Be sure to cleanse and charge the crystals daily, because the intense emotions will quickly fill them with energy.
REMEDY #2: AQUAMARINE & SELENITE
Use aquamarine to facilitate emotional release from painful emotions and selenite to seek comfort from a higher power. Hold the aquamarine in your giving (dominant) hand and the selenite in your receiving (nondominant) hand, allowing your emotions to flow into the aquamarine and the peace and comfort from the selenite to flow into you. Continue for at least 10 minutes or until you feel a sense of comfort and a lessening of your grief.
Grounding & Spiritual Protection
Healers, light workers, energy workers, people who use psychic intuition, people who are highly empathic, and people in psychically charged atmospheres can benefit from this combination of remedies. Grounding is especially important because it keeps you firmly rooted to Earth. Adding spiritual protection can keep you safe from any negative energy, which is important because these types of work tend to leave you quite open to others’ energetic influences.
I am grounded, centered, and surrounded by a white light of protection.
MEDITATION
Sit comfortably in a chair with your feet on the floor, eyes closed, and breathing normally. Put both hands over your belly button. State the mantra. Now, visualize a silver cord of light extending from the bottom of your feet into the Earth. Anchor your cord in the center of the Earth and picture a pink light moving up the cord and into your belly. Feel the pink light turn into a warm ball in your belly, growing warm under your hands and moving into them. Now, extend your hands to your sides, palms facing up. Release the light from your hands into a circle all around you as you push the pink light from your core outward, surrounding you completely. Repeat the mantra 10 times.
REMEDY #1: BLACK TOURMALINE & CLEAR QUARTZ
Tourmaline is both a grounding and a protective stone, while clear quartz calls in the Divine. I always carry tourmaline and clear quartz when I am doing energy work, cleansing and recharging the crystals as soon as I have completed the work. The quartz amplifies the grounding and protective properties of the black tourmaline. Use these two stones together—black tourmaline in your giving (dominant) hand and quartz in your receiving (nondominant) hand—when you feel you need grounding and protection.
REMEDY #2: POLISHED HEMATITE & SELENITE
Polished hematite has a reflective surface that can reflect negative energy away from you. At the same time, its deep red to black color makes it a root chakra stone that helps you ground yourself. Wear a polished hematite ring for grounding and protection, making sure you cleanse the ring as soon as you have finished doing your energy work. Use selenite to call protection from a higher source, as well as to cleanse the ring as needed. If you do a lot of energy work, you may wish to keep a few different rings in rotation.
A hematite ring will break when it has used up all its grounding and protective energy or become saturated with negative energy. Don’t be alarmed if this happens, as it is quite common. It merely signals that it is time to use a different ring. Be sure to throw away the pieces of the ring. Don’t store the pieces with your other crystals, because the hematite is loaded with the negative energy it has absorbed.
Guilt & Shame
Guilt and shame are two sides of the same coin. These all-too-common self-destructive emotions offer an opportunity to better yourself even as they present challenges. While they serve as a compass to help you, when you internalize them and allow them to become part of your self-image, they can prevent you from moving forward with your life in a healthy manner.
I acknowledge my actions that led to my guilt. I release any lingering shame.
MEDITATION
Meditate with a root chakra stone, such as a garnet, in either of your hands. Focus on this chakra as you meditate. Take a deep breath in and say, “I acknowledge my actions that led to my guilt.” As you exhale, picture your shame flowing out through your root chakra and dissipating into the universe while repeating, “I release any lingering shame.” Do this for at least 10 minutes or until you feel a release.
REMEDY #1: AMAZONITE & GARNET CHAKRA WORK
Shame and guilt are root chakra issues. When our actions warrant these feelings, however, our throat (integrity) chakra comes into play, as well. Lie on your back on the floor or a bed. Place amazonite on your throat chakra and a garnet on your root chakra. Close your eyes and feel the energy flow between the two chakras, staying in place for 10 to 15 minutes. Allow yourself to flow with any emotions that arise, feeling and releasing them fully.
REMEDY #2: PERIDOT & CITRINE
Sit comfortably. Hold a peridot in your giving (dominant) hand and close your eyes. Visualize your guilt and shame as dark shadows in your body and see them lifting away from you and dissipating into the universe. Fill your body with healing white light. When you have completed the visualization, sit quietly holding citrine in your receiving (nondominant) hand to build self-confidence, with your attention focused on your solar plexus. Do this for five minutes.
Insecurity & Self-Confidence
Your security forms in your root chakra, while self-confidence arises from the solar plexus chakra. The two often go hand in hand; if you’ve never felt secure, it is difficult to have any type of self-confidence. To strengthen your self-confidence, you must first take care of any safety and security issues you have. A person’s higher-level needs cannot be addressed until the lower-level needs are met.
I am safe, secure, and confident in myself and my life.
MEDITATION
Meditate to strengthen your root chakra and your solar plexus chakra. Lie on your back with your eyes closed, breathing normally. Visualize a red swirling light in your root chakra and a yellow swirling light in your solar plexus chakra. Run energy from one chakra to the other. Do this for at least 10 minutes, repeating the mantra as you do.
REMEDY #1: RED & YELLOW TIGERS EYE
I love tigers eye as a self-confidence stone—to me, it just feels so powerfully self-affirming. I have it in all colors, and they are among my favorite stones. In this case, use red tigers eye on your root chakra and yellow tigers eye on your solar plexus chakra as you do the meditation.
REMEDY #2: SARDONYX & SUNSTONE
Sardonyx in either red or black is a great dual-purpose stone. It helps clear up safety issues associated with the root chakra, and it also serves as a confidence booster. Sunstone will also boost your self-esteem. Carry sardonyx and sunstone in your pants pocket so it is near both of these chakras when you are feeling insecure and need a confidence boost.
Any root chakra stone can help you clear away insecurity, while any solar plexus chakra stone can increase self-confidence. Try different combinations of red or black root chakra stones and golden or yellow solar plexus chakra stones to see which helps you the most. You can use them in the meditation or carry them with you. If you hold them in your hands, always hold the aspect you’d like to receive (in this case, confidence) in your receiving (nondominant) hand, and always hold the aspect you’d like to dispel in your giving (dominant) hand.
Inspiration & Creativity
Even the most creative people among us occasionally feel blocked in our creative pursuits. That is when we are especially in need of a spark of inspiration to stoke our creativity. But even if you aren’t experiencing a creative block or aren’t a particularly creative person, finding creative inspiration can result in positive benefits along your life’s path.
I am inspired by my higher self and express my creativity in all aspects of my life.
MEDITATION
Inspiration comes from your crown chakra, where you receive inspiration from the Source, as well as from your third eye chakra, which is the seat of inspiration and insight from your higher self. Creativity forms in the sacral chakra. Incorporating all these chakras into a single meditation can help stimulate the flow of ideas and inspiration from higher chakras down to your chakra of creativity. Sit comfortably with your eyes closed, breathing normally. Visualize a white light coming from above and entering through your crown chakra. Bring the energy into your third eye chakra, mixing the white light with the violet or indigo of the third eye. Next, bring that energy down through your chakras to your sacral chakra, where it mixes with the orange energy you find there. As you do so, repeat the mantra for at least 10 minutes.
REMEDY #1: AMETHYST & AMETRINE GRID
Amethyst is a crystal of both the crown and third eye chakras, which brings inspiration, while citrine is a stone of creativity. To spark creativity while you sleep, place a small ametrine grid on your bedside table. Place a piece of amethyst in the center of the grid, and then add three ametrine pieces in a triangle around the center stone. Make sure one of the triangle points directly points at your head to direct the energy your way. (If you do not have ametrine, you can use citrine instead.)
REMEDY #2: CITRINE & ORANGE CALCITE
Citrine can help you open your mind, allowing inspiration to enter. Orange calcite draws up the creativity from the sacral chakra and combines it with inspiration from a higher source. Sit quietly for 5 to 10 minutes with a piece of citrine in your receiving (nondominant) hand, focusing on your solar plexus chakra. Next, perform the meditation while holding a piece of orange calcite in your receiving hand.
Loneliness & Contentment
Many people believe that the opposite of loneliness is love, but it is really contentment. Sometimes in life, we are unable to find the love we desire with another human being. The feeling of loneliness may exist so that we continue to reach out to others, or it may urge us to commune with ourselves, our spirit, and the Source. Finding contentment in your life—no matter your relationship status or how many or few people are in your life—is a significant way to address the loneliness you may feel.
I am at peace and content in my own company.
MEDITATION
Sit comfortably with your eyes closed, breathing normally. Visualize yourself sitting alone in a space, where there is nothing there but you. Now, speak the mantra and allow light to come from above and inside of you, surrounding you in white light and love. Do this for at least 10 minutes.
REMEDY #1: AMETHYST, CITRINE, & ROSE QUARTZ
Amethyst connects you to spirit and your higher self, citrine enhances your enjoyment of your own company, and rose quartz enhances unconditional love for self and others. Do the meditation with the amethyst and citrine in your receiving (nondominant) hand and the rose quartz in your giving (dominant) hand, which you press gently to your heart chakra.
REMEDY #2: RUBY IN FUCHSITE
Ruby is another stone that fosters contentment, while fuchsite is a heart stone that fosters self-love and positive relationships. The two come together in ruby in fuchsite, making it the perfect stone for this combination of issues. Place a piece of ruby in fuchsite under your pillow at night, cleansing and recharging the crystal each morning. You can also use separate pieces of ruby and fuchsite, placed together, for this remedy
Opening the Heart & Relationships
Every time you interact with another person, you are in some type of a relationship with them. While many people tend to think of relationships as being only with friends, family, and colleagues, in truth, you are in a relationship of some type with every person you encounter. Having an open and loving heart can help improve every relationship that enters your life—from your significant other all the way to the person who serves you at the deli counter. Opening your heart facilitates positive interactions.
My heart is open to unconditionally loving relationships and interactions.
MEDITATION
With everyone you meet, no matter how brief the interaction, imagine a green light flowing from your heart chakra to theirs and from their heart chakra to yours. If this is difficult for you to do, practice it by sitting quietly and visualizing yourself going about your day, encountering people, and seeing this exchange of open-hearted love take place.
REMEDY #1: ROSE QUARTZ & LAPIS LAZULI CHAKRA WORK
Lie on your back with your eyes closed. Place a piece of rose quartz on your heart chakra and a piece of lapis lazuli on your throat chakra. Visualize energy flowing between the two chakras. The rose quartz will open your heart, while the lapis lazuli will facilitate communication and help you have truthful and honest relationships. Lie this way for 10 minutes.
REMEDY #2: ROSE QUARTZ & CITRINE CHAKRA WORK
Sometimes the person to whom you need to open your heart is yourself. This chakra meditation focuses on the solar plexus chakra, which is where you build self-esteem, and the heart chakra, where you find unconditional love. Use a piece of rose quartz and a piece of citrine for this meditation. Lie comfortably on your back with the rose quartz on your heart chakra and the citrine on your solar plexus chakra. Close your eyes and visualize each chakra opening, with energy flowing freely between them and throughout your body. Continue your meditation for at least 10 minutes.
Releasing Negativity & Increasing Positive Energy
The Law of Attraction states that whatever you put out into the universe, you receive back. Therefore, if you’re caught in a spiral of negativity, you are creating energetic circumstances in which more negativity can come back to you. This can be a very difficult cycle to get out of, unless you actively work to increase the positive energy in your life. If you’re stuck in a negative pattern, it’s essential not to dwell on the negativity and give it more energy, but rather focus on generating positive energy to turn things around.
I am filled with positive energy, which brings positive things into my life.
MEDITATION
Sit comfortably with your eyes closed, breathing deeply. As you exhale, imagine your negative energy as a dark cloud leaving your body and dissolving into a white light that surrounds you. As you inhale, visualize the positive white light entering and filling you as you repeat the mantra. Do this for at least 10 minutes every day.
REMEDY #1: IOLITE & BLACK TOURMALINE
Iolite is a beautiful watery-blue crystal that attracts positive energy, while black tourmaline absorbs negativity. Do the meditation while holding the black tourmaline in your giving (dominant) hand and the iolite in your receiving (nondominant) hand. Be sure to cleanse and charge the crystals a few times each week to keep them working well.
REMEDY #2: MOLDAVITE & AMBER
I’m a sucker for any crystal that does more than one thing at a time, which is why I think moldavite is so perfect for transforming energy. It is a crystal of transformation, so it can turn the energy of any situation from negative to positive. This is a great stone to use when you feel like you’re caught in a negative spiral. Amber is a stone of happiness and joy, so it increases positive energy. Do the meditation with moldavite in your giving (dominant) hand and amber in your receiving (nondominant) hand for 10 minutes, noticing how the energy going into the moldavite transforms and returns to you with positive vibes, while the amber adds positive energy and happiness from the receiving hand. Cleanse the stones daily if you’re in an intensely negative cycle, or a few times a week otherwise.
Resentment & Letting Go
When you resent someone, you hold both you and that other person captive spiritually and emotionally. It can negatively affect future relationships, as well. Learning to let go of resentment can heal relationships, or it can provide you both with release, allowing you to move forward with your lives, whether together or apart. Some relationships can’t be healed, even after letting go of resentment, and that’s okay. What’s important is that you both learned the lessons you needed from the relationship and that you have released each other into a positive and healthy future.
I release [name the person] from anger and resentment and bless [him/her] for a positive future.
MEDITATION
Sit comfortably with your eyes closed, breathing normally. Visualize the person toward whom you hold resentment, and picture your resentment as heavy chains surrounding that person. Now, send loving light from your heart to that person, watching as the love breaks the chains around him or her. Surround the person entirely with light as you repeat the mantra for at least 10 minutes.
REMEDY #1: CARNELIAN & MOSS AGATE
Red carnelian can help you release resentment, while moss agate helps with both resentment and letting go. This green stone is a good choice for the heart chakra, which allows you to love in the face of anger or resentment. Moss agate can also help you let go of bitterness and anger. Do the meditation while holding a piece of moss agate in your receiving (nondominant) hand and a piece of carnelian in your giving (dominant) hand.
REMEDY #2: BLACK TOURMALINE & AMBER
Sometimes resentment and bitterness are earned because one or both partners bring a lot of toxic energy into the relationship. In this case, it is even more important to let go of those emotions. Black tourmaline can help by absorbing the negative energy created by the relationship itself and helping you release both yourself and the other person. Meditate with a piece of black tourmaline in your giving (dominant) hand for 10 minutes daily for at least a week, focusing on releasing the resentment or negative feelings you have and allowing it to flow into the black tourmaline. Cleanse and recharge the tourmaline as soon as you finish each meditation session. Follow the meditation with five minutes of holding amber in your receiving (nondominant) hand to foster warm feelings and happiness.
Sometimes the best way to heal a relationship is to step away from it, letting it go. Resentment often builds in a relationship that no longer mutually serves both persons’ paths in life. But acknowledge your time together was beneficial to both. This can help you separate and let go with gratitude for the help you provided each other along life’s path.
Stress & Peace
Too much stress in your life can rob you of your sense of peacefulness. Finding a place of peace within, however, can provide refuge from unavoidable stress, allowing you some respite during stressful times. We all have a peaceful place in us where we can go and recharge, no matter what’s going on in our lives. Locating your source of peace can help you keep stress at bay.
I release all stress and enter my place of peace.
MEDITATION
Sit quietly with your eyes closed, breathing deeply. Focus all your energy within, locating a quiet space inside you. As you focus on this peaceful place, inhale peace and exhale stress while repeating the mantra. Stay in the meditation for at least 10 minutes.
REMEDY #1: ONYX & SELENITE
Black onyx absorbs negative energy, while selenite has a very peaceful energy. Holding selenite or even gazing at it can help you reach a more calm and peaceful state. During times of stress, keep onyx and selenite with you. When you feel stressed, hold the onyx in your giving (dominant) hand, breathing deeply and allowing it to absorb your stress. Then, hold selenite in your receiving (nondominant) hand and gaze deeply into its depths as you take deep breaths and repeat the mantra 10 times.
REMEDY #2: OBSIDIAN & BLUE CALCITE
Obsidian can calm and absorb negative energy, while blue calcite can help ease physical signs of stress, soothing your senses and allowing you to find inner peace. Hold the obsidian in your giving (dominant) hand and the blue calcite in your receiving (nondominant) hand as you do the meditation.
If you work in a very stressful environment, keep a piece of selenite on your desk. One good choice that you can find in many crystal shops is a selenite tower on a lighted base. The base changes the color of the light, making the selenite glow in different hues. Watching the selenite glow with changing colors can release stress and increase your feelings of peace.